You are not going through hell for no reason. Lately it may seem as if your life is up in shambles. You don’t know what you really want to do (career wise), your finances are all tied up, and you are feeling all alone. You’ve even considered giving up and your hope is at an all time low. But no need to fret, because God is purposely making you uncomfortable in order to make you move! His purpose is greater than your understanding. STOP fighting it child! You didn’t get that job/ internship because God doesn’t want you working for anyone, but instead wants you to work on that business that he has planted in your heart for the last year… Your relationship didn’t work out not only because that man couldn’t appreciate you and only you, but God has somebody that is willing to not only make you happy but appreciate and treat you right as well. This past year was very trying and I constantly battled with confusion on why certain things and situations were occurring in my life. God will use your situation to make you stronger and prepare you for your ultimate blessing and with this you will begin to not only recognize the power that he has, but also the power he has instilled in you to touch others lives.
I remember going into 2015 praying and claiming for a very successful and productive year (not knowing what I was actually into and having a difficult time finding my craft and what I am passionate about and enjoy doing). So as months pass by, different situations and scenarios occurred causing me to question God and lose faith (the devil really does come to kill, steal, and destroy ladies!) But all along, I’m finally starting to realize that God was placing me in a variety of situations only to give me knowledge regarding different life issues that female youth face today, in order to help others. I would also like to acknowledge a very inspirational and motivational blogger whom I began to become very dependent on during this rough stage, Heather Lindsey. I think it was destined for me to come across her blog because her stories and messages were what got me through a lot of rough times. (I just pray that God allows and uses me as a vessel to help encourage and motivate others as she has done for me.)
From dealing with my parents seperation (and upcoming divorce), fake friendships, bogus “relation”ships, school, and other everyday issues I was so frustrated, confused, hopeless, and depressed. Looking back I see how much time I wasted, but ultimately I appreciate my process of growth. I was uncomfortable thinking about my family situation. It hurt to see that after 25 years— a quarter of a century my parents allowed the devil to intervene in their beautiful and loving marriage (I will be speaking more about this in my next blog: Marriage Today: is it really til death do us part?”) I began to doubt the idea and power of love. I’m still constantly battling with this subject daily but I have faith that God will help me to overcome this. Then dealing with numerous fake and phony individuals whom I would be nothing but honest and caring towards but would never get the same treatment in return. I developed trust issues and started to think less of myself because I did not understand why this was happening to me and what I did to deserve such unjust treatment. After separating myself and basically re-evaluating my life ( the people I surrounded myself with and how I would invest so much time and energy into negative thoughts and people) I realized that I had to appreciate the good friends I have, the fact that I still have my parents in my life, and that I can’t let situations I’m dealing with get the best of me. We have to realize that 99% of things in our life is uncontrollable but we do hold the power to allow them to either make or break us. Aren’t you tired of releasing your power? You control your situation, it doesn’t control you! A way I’ve been able to tackle this issue is by a little saying I constantly use to remind myself that everything will be fine, T! And that is ” everything happens for a reason, what is meant for me will always be for me.” No need to worry, complain, or stress. God has purpose in your life. You can’t see it because all the negative thoughts that consume you. When it comes to this I imagine someones eye glasses with scum and dirt completely covering the lens, causing it to block their vision/sight. Therefore not allowing them to see the bigger picture and move! That’s what it’s like when you allow negative energy to take over. You’re blinded. You run into more trouble because you lose faith and can’t see the potential and greatness that you have destined for your life. Don’t be a prisoner of your own thoughts. Instead, pray and ask god to strengthen you and enable you to become more positive about your situation. Use your situation to build yourself and help others. Don’t allow it to suck you up, because by the time it spits you back out you have lost yourself and the lesson/blessing that also comes with it.
Ultimately, just remember that whatever you are dealing with you are not facing it alone. God is constantly by your side waiting for you to ask for help and with faith anything is possible in God’s will. I hope this message could help someone. And remember ladies, God loves you and you are beautiful!
Until next time!